“Beauty is pain” is something people have told me my whole life, to the point when I say it as well. I just now started thinking about the meaning behind this phrase. Is this really a phrase that young adolescents should grow up with, and live by? Is this affecting our society in different ways? Should beauty be defined by how much pain you feel to get there? These kind of sayings is the reason why society believes that wearing 6-inch stilettos, waxing your legs, and wearing spanx is beauty.
According to Global Market Inside Study, “Four out of ten individuals have either personally experienced an eating disorder or know someone who has.” This is a fact that I find quite interesting due to the fact that you experience pain as you have an eating disorder, but it is ignored, with the help of the phrase “beauty is pain”. We are told that we are never enough for society, and that you can self-harm to make yourself pretty. This is fascinating because our society has such a double standard. It tells us that make up, starving yourself, and heels are what makes us beautiful, but if you use it/do it, you are fake.
There are many days when I have felt unworthy due to the way I look, and this saying has simply helped me feel worse. Knowing that it’s okay to hurt as long as it shows your outer beauty, is not a motto that is worth living by. Therefore, it is time for our generation to change the way we look at life. “Beauty” is not pain, it is being a person who is caring and understanding. Beauty should not be based on appearance, instead on what kind of a person you are. In conclusion, we should change our outlook on life, and stop teaching children that “beauty is pain”.